I Repeatedly Commit Zina, Masturbate, and Watch Pornography, Then Repent and Return to These Sins. Will Allah Accept My Repentance, and How Can I Overcome These Sins?

Question: Assalamu Alaikum. It feels very strange and difficult for me to share this, but I repeatedly fall into major sins like masturbation and *zina* (illicit sexual acts). I repent, yet it happens again; I keep repenting, but I still end up committing these acts. I am also struggling with a pornography addiction. After committing these sins, I feel a deep sense of despair, fearing that Allah might never forgive me. I do offer my *salah* (prayers) and pray to Allah, asking Him to grant me the strength to gain control over my *nafs* (desires/self). I am filled with immense regret and truly wish to break free from this. Please, help me.

Summary:

Firstly: A Muslim must fear Allah Almighty and avoid zina, masturbation, and watching pornography, as these are sins from which repentance is obligatory. Zina is among the major sins, and Allah Almighty has prohibited even approaching it. He, the Exalted, says: "And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way." [Surah Al-Isra: 32] Secondly: It is not permissible for a Muslim to despair of the mercy of Allah Almighty, regardless of how great his sins are or how frequently he commits them. Indeed, Allah, the Exalted, forgives all sins for whoever sincerely repents to Him. Allah Almighty says: "Say, 'O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.'" [Surah Az-Zumar: 53] Thirdly: Repeating a sin after repentance does not mean that Allah will not accept a servant's repentance. Rather, whenever a person sincerely repents while fulfilling the conditions of repentance, Allah accepts his repentance, even if he returns to the sin and subsequently repents again. However, this must not be used as an excuse to take sins lightly. Fourthly: The questioner must eliminate the causes that lead him to what is prohibited. He must stay away from pornography, prohibited seclusion, and relationships that lead him to immoral acts. He should seek the help of Allah Almighty, frequently supplicate, fast, and strive to marry if he is able. Fifthly: Maintaining the prayers is among the greatest means of remaining steadfast and abandoning immoral acts. Therefore, he must not abandon his prayers because of the sins he commits. Rather, he must continue observing them and strive to perform them with humility, concentration, and an attentive heart.

Answer:

Firstly: The danger of zina and the actions that lead to it

From the Qur'an:

  • [Surah Al-Isra: 32]
    "And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way."

    Allah, the Exalted, did not say, "Do not commit zina." Rather, He said, "And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse," so that the prohibition encompasses both zina itself and the means that lead to it. Among these means are looking freely at prohibited things, watching pornographic images and videos, engaging in prohibited correspondence and relationships, and being alone in seclusion with a non-mahram woman. Allah, the Exalted, also says:

  • [Surah An-Nur: 30]
    "Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them."

From the Sunnah:

  • Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that the Prophet ﷺ said:
    "The son of Adam has been decreed his share of zina, which he will inevitably commit. The zina of the eyes is looking, the zina of the ears is listening, the zina of the tongue is speaking, the zina of the hand is touching, and the zina of the foot is walking. The heart desires and wishes, and the private parts either confirm that or deny it."

    Thus, looking at prohibited things is considered the zina of the eyes, and it is among the causes that may lead to actual zina, although it does not carry the same ruling as zina for which the prescribed punishment is applicable.

Secondly: The ruling on masturbation The majority of scholars hold that masturbation is prohibited, and they use as evidence the statement of Allah Almighty:

From the Qur'an:

  • [Surah Al-Muminun: 5–7]
    "And they who guard their private parts, except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for indeed, they will not be blamed. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors."

    Furthermore, the Prophet ﷺ instructed young people who were unable to marry to fast, and he did not instruct them to masturbate.

From the Sunnah:

  • Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.Abdullah bin Masud رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
    "O young men, whoever among you is able to marry should marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one's chastity. And whoever is unable to marry should fast, for fasting will be a means of restraining his desires."

    Masturbation is prohibited according to the majority of scholars. However, it is not at the same level as zina in terms of its ruling and punishment, and the two should not be confused.

Thirdly: Does Allah accept the repentance of someone who repeatedly commits the same sin? Yes, Allah accepts the repentance of His servant when he is sincere in it, even if he has committed the same sin many times.

From the Qur'an:

  • [Surah Ash-Shura: 25]
    "And it is He who accepts repentance from His servants and pardons misdeeds, and He knows what you do."
  • [Surah An-Nisa: 110]
    "And whoever does a wrong or wrongs himself but then seeks forgiveness of Allah will find Allah Forgiving and Merciful."

From the Sunnah:

  • Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه:
    It is authentically reported from Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that the Prophet ﷺ narrated from his Lord, the Almighty and Majestic, concerning a servant who committed a sin and sought forgiveness, then returned to the sin and sought forgiveness again, that Allah Almighty said: "My servant knows that he has a Lord who forgives sins and punishes for sins." Then, at the end of the hadith, He said: "Do as you wish, for I have forgiven you."

    The meaning of this hadith is that when a servant commits a sin and then sincerely repents, Allah forgives him. If he returns to the sin and then repents again, Allah accepts his repentance. It does not mean that committing sins is permissible or that a person has been granted permission to persist in them. This is among the greatest proofs of the vastness of Allah's mercy.

Fourthly: The conditions of sincere repentance

From the Qur'an:

  • [Surah At-Tahrim: 8]
    "O you who have believed, repent to Allah with sincere repentance."

The scholars have mentioned that sincere repentance has three conditions concerning the rights of Allah Almighty: 1. Abandoning the sin: A person must immediately stop committing the sin and must not continue engaging in it. 2. Regretting what has passed: A person must feel sorrow and regret for having disobeyed Allah Almighty 3. Resolving not to return to the sin: A person must sincerely resolve to abandon the sin in the future. If the sin involves the rights of other people, then those rights must be returned to their rightful owners, or their forgiveness must be sought, according to the nature of the right involved. It is important for the questioner to understand that resolving not to return to a sin does not mean guaranteeing that he will never become weak again. Rather, what is required is that he be sincere in his resolve at the time of repentance. If he sincerely repents and is subsequently overcome by his desires, he must renew his repentance and must not despair of Allah's mercy. Fifthly: Statements of the scholars:

From the Scholars:

  • Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله
    He explained that a servant may repent from a sin and subsequently return to it, and that the first repentance does not become invalid merely because a new sin was committed after the repentance was valid. Rather, he must repent again from the sin he has subsequently committed.

    This demonstrates that repeating a sin does not prevent sincere repentance from being accepted.

  • Imam Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله
    He explained in Madarij as-Salikin that repentance is among the greatest stations of servitude to Allah, that a servant is constantly in need of repentance and seeking forgiveness, and that regret, abandoning the sin, and resolving not to return to it are among the fundamental principles of repentance. Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله stated that the majority of scholars do not stipulate, as a condition for the validity of repentance, that a servant must never return to the sin again. Rather, what matters is the sincerity of the repentance when it takes place.
  • Shaykh Abdul Aziz bin Baz رحمه الله:
    "If a person commits zina, steals, drinks intoxicants, or commits something similar, and then repents to Allah with sincere repentance, abandons the sin, regrets what he has done in the past, and sincerely resolves not to return to it, then Allah erases that sin from him. If he returns to it, he must repent again."

    This means that whoever sincerely repents from major sins, Allah accepts his repentance. If he returns to the sin, he must renew his repentance and must not despair of Allah's mercy.

  • He رحمه الله also said:
    "Whenever they return to repentance, it is accepted from them, provided that their first repentance was sincere. Then, if they fall into the sin again and subsequently repent, Allah accepts their repentance."

Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymin رحمه الله: The ruling on repeatedly repenting from a sin: The Shaykh رحمه الله stated that when a person sincerely repents to Allah with repentance that fulfills its conditions, Allah accepts his repentance. The conditions of repentance are five: 1. Sincerity to Allah Almighty: Repentance must be undertaken for the sake of Allah, not out of fear of people or a desire to gain their approval. 2. Regret over the sin: A person must feel sorrow and remorse for the disobedience he has committed. 3. Abandoning the sin: A person must immediately stop committing the sin and fulfill any obligations he previously neglected if they can still be made up. Repentance is not valid while a person persists in committing the same sin. 4. Resolving not to return to the sin: A person must sincerely resolve never to return to the sin. As for someone who repents while intending to return to the sin whenever the opportunity arises, his repentance is not sincere. 5. Repenting during the period when repentance is accepted: This means before the sun rises from the west and before death approaches and the soul reaches the throat. The Shaykh رحمه الله then explained that if a person sincerely repents but is subsequently overcome by his desires and returns to the sin, his first repentance remains valid and is not invalidated by his return to the sin. However, he must repent from the new sin. Even if he repeats the sin twice, three times, or more, and then sincerely repents each time while fulfilling the conditions of repentance, Allah accepts his repentance, and he should not despair of Allah's mercy. Therefore, the servant must be sincere in his repentance and resolve to abandon the sin. If he falls into it again, he must hasten to renew his repentance. He must not allow the repeated occurrence of the sin to become a reason for abandoning repentance or despairing of the mercy of Allah Almighty. Sixthly: Practical means of overcoming these sins: The questioner should combine sincere repentance with taking practical steps that will help him remain steadfast. Among the most important are: 1. Maintaining the five daily prayers:

From the Qur'an:

  • [Surah Al-Ankabut: 45]
    "Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing."

2. Lowering the gaze He must refrain from watching pornography, delete pornographic materials, and block websites and accounts that arouse sexual desires. 3. Staying away from the causes of temptation This includes prohibited relationships, being alone with non-mahram women, and situations in which he has become accustomed to falling into sin. 4. Fasting This is especially important for someone who is unable to marry, because the Prophet ﷺ said: "And whoever is unable to marry should fast, for fasting will be a means of restraining his desires." 5. Marriage when financially and physically capable Marriage is among the greatest means of maintaining chastity and lowering the gaze, while also being prepared to fulfill its responsibilities. 6. Occupying one's time with beneficial activities This includes seeking Islamic knowledge, reading the Quran, working, exercising, and keeping the company of righteous people. 7. Frequently making supplication and seeking forgiveness Among the prophetic supplications is: "O Allah, I ask You for guidance, piety, chastity, and self-sufficiency." اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْهُدَى وَالتُّقَى وَالْعَفَافَ وَالْغِنَى Narrated by Muslim. 8. Seeking professional assistance when necessary If watching pornography has become a compulsive behavior that a person is unable to control despite repeated attempts, there is no harm in seeking assistance from a trustworthy mental health professional while maintaining confidentiality and privacy. If he falls into the sin again, he must not continue committing it on the assumption that he has already ruined his repentance. Rather, he should stop immediately, seek Allah's forgiveness, renew his repentance, and identify the cause that led to his relapse so that he can address it. If he has engaged in a prohibited sexual relationship, he must end that relationship and repent from it, while taking into consideration any rights owed to others or health risks that may have resulted from it. He should also undergo the necessary medical examinations if there is a possibility of having contracted a sexually transmitted infection. Seventhly: It is not permissible to despair of Allah's mercy:

From the Qur'an:

  • [Surah Yusuf: 87]
    "And despair not of relief from Allah. Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving people."

    Allah, the Exalted, also says regarding His servants who repented from shirk, murder, and zina:

  • [Surah Al-Furqan: 70]
    "Except for those who repent, believe and do righteous work. For them Allah will replace their evil deeds with good. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful."

    Reflect upon how Allah, the Exalted, did not merely state that He would forgive these great sins for those who repent. Rather, He promised those who repent while fulfilling the conditions of repentance that He would replace their evil deeds with good deeds. A person's legitimate regret should not turn into despair that prevents him from worshipping Allah and reforming himself. Regret motivates a person to repent, while hope motivates him to continue performing acts of obedience.

Conclusion: The questioner is obligated to repent sincerely to Allah, eliminate the causes that lead to zina, masturbation, and looking at prohibited things, and strive against his desires to maintain chastity and uprightness. It is not permissible for him to despair of Allah's mercy because he repeatedly commits the same sin. Indeed, Allah accepts the repentance of whoever sincerely turns to Him, even if the sin has been repeated many times, provided that the person regrets it, abandons it, and sincerely resolves not to return to it. He must continue maintaining his prayers, frequently supplicate, fast, seek marriage if he is able, and utilize permissible and practical means to overcome these sins. He must also beware of two grave matters: The first: Feeling secure from Allah's punishment, which leads to taking sins lightly. The second: Despairing of Allah's mercy, which leads to abandoning repentance. Rather, he must combine fear of Allah with hope in His mercy. We ask Allah Almighty to accept the questioner's repentance, forgive his sins, purify his heart, protect his chastity, help him lower his gaze, and grant him purity and steadfastness in obedience to Him.

And Allah knows best.

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